5 Signs That You're Afraid Of Getting Rejected ( based on personal relationships )

       

 Hey guys, I'm glad you're back here.

       I'm really excited about this particular piece because in many ways it's really personal. It took me quite a while to get it done to this point and I had some help from so many people. I know most people clicked the link because we're all curious cats. We want to know if we're exhibiting any of these signs. Others want to prove to themselves that they are not. Who knows you just might be. Try and read this piece with an open mind.

           Rejection isn't a word anyone likes to hear, neither are the phrases "You just weren't good enough", " We're sorry but you didn't make the cut", "It's not you, it's me", " Sorry we're not hiring"

These are all different ways to tell that you've been rejected. To be honest, rejection isn't a bad thing. When you get rejected, yes it means you've failed but it doesn't mean you've failed forever. It just means you've failed in that particular step at that particular point in time. So rejection makes you stronger. It fuels you to prove that you won't fail and be rejected again.

         What is bad, terrible in fact is when you're afraid of the rejection that hasn't even knocked on your door yet, and here are some signs that you're experiencing this feeling:

Conforming to another person's perception of you rather than being your true self.

In this situation, you thirst and hunger for approval and acceptance. You tend to feel left out or misplaced if the people you want to hang out with or the person you want to be with doesn't acknowledge you. So you do things the person likes even if you're not comfortable with it or you despise it.

Trust me you might be telling yourself that you're compromising, but you're not, you're killing yourself slowly from the inside and you need to stop.

•Placing others above yourself so they wouldn't leave you

This point might not be relatable to everyone but I'm speaking from a personal understanding of the matter.

Here you are known to be a people pleaser, it's not bad to always want to help others but you have to learn when to say no. If you're always putting people first you're eventually going to hurt yourself, because you'll begin to feel like you're always helping others and then there's never anyone there to help you. It's funny how this thought is all in your head but the thought is always going to be there. 

You have to understand that not everyone you place above yourself will return the favor you expect. You definitely have those people that are always going to stand by you but you shouldn't expect this behavior from everyone. So my advice to you is to understand that you can be selfish and put yourself first once in a while.

•Begging people to come back into your life when they've made it clear that they don't want to be.

In this case, I believe we as human beings do this unconsciously and for most, of us it's quite a hard habit to control or get rid of. We tend to give that person or people reasons why they are wanted in our lives. We do everything possible to get them back. 

We stalk their social media, we try to hang out with their friends more, we even go to the extent of actually begging. Trust me once they tell you they don't want to be in your life, you should hit the high road and get the point. They aren't worth the trouble and stress you're going through.

•The fear of having difficult conversations as well as voicing out your opinions and needs.

You always have a plan in your head but when the time comes you're gonna blow it away because you might feel like you're gonna hurt the person or because you know the person isn't going to like to hear your opinions. Hence you keep it inside, you push away the difficult conversation. The one where you're not happy and how you're miserable e, the one where you hate the job or you don't like the course, the one where you know this isn't where you're meant to be. I'm sure you know what to do. You have to be brave, you've got to have some courage to stand up for what you believe in and how you want to be treated and not otherwise.

•Lastly, your Insecurities build-up.

I'm sure deep down we're all insecure about something, no matter what it may be but when you're afraid of being rejected these insecurities come in tenfold. They disguise themselves in different forms and thus make us start to view ourselves differently. When you have insecurities, instead of treating them like what they are, use them as a shield, let them be your armor Use them to your advantage. When you embrace them, they longer bother you instead they will be the upper hand you have to fight your fear.

These aren't the only signs that show you're afraid of rejection. These are just a few for you to know what's really happening to you and that you're not mentally ill or depressed you're just afraid and you can and will get over your fears the moment you begin to face your reality. I hope you enjoyed this piece and you've learned something that might help you in the long run if not now. Rejection hurts but it's impossible to avoid. Life is about going for things and when we do, rejection is always a possibility. So why should you be afraid?