10 Habits Of The Most Confident Person In The Room

The way they talk, the way they walk, the way they exhibit this amazing aura of high esteem when they step into a room.

Who are they?

Confident people 

So how do you define self-confidence?

In the simplest terms, It is a belief in oneself, the conviction that one has the ability to meet life's challenges and to succeed—and the willingness to act accordingly.

Some people just have it,  others grow into it. How do they grow into it? What exactly is it that they do differently? Let's get into some habits of confident people.

1) THEY DON'T AVOID NEW CHALLENGES

Have you ever wanted to try something new but fear held you back? 

You've killed your dreams out of fear.

Confident people acknowledge that fear is and would always be a natural part of the human experience. So they aren't scared to do difficult things or take up new challenges when the need arises.

I've never met a confident person who runs away when the going gets tough, or when things seem scary. They like to step out of their comfort zones to achieve what they set their hearts and minds to and frankly so should you.

A great way to start building up this confidence is to start taking on smaller new challenges and start to build up the confidence to take on larger and more important new challenges.

   

 Let's all find the confidence in ourselves when we approach these difficult roads,  for they often lead to beautiful destinations.

2) THEY KNOW HOW TO SAY 'NO'

Confident people are happy to decline the things they don’t have time or energy for.

Maybe you need to dedicate time to what matters, or you just don’t want to agree to something you don’t want to do. After all, it’s better to do two things well than to do ten things poorly.

 People who feel pressured into saying “yes” all the time often find themselves over-committing. This can lead to stress, anxiety, and depression. Set your boundaries, and commit to defending them. Confident people know their priorities and they understand what makes them happy, and people treat them with respect because of it.

Try your best to learn to say no, even if you say yes to others make sure you aren't saying no to yourself. This is something that you will need to practice and put effort into. You will need to learn how to determine what to say no to and what to say yes to and then how to correctly and kindly say no to things that aren’t helping you.

3) THEY SEE FAILURE AS A GREAT OPPORTUNITY

I'm certain if a count is done on people who are afraid failure and those who aren't , the latter is sure to be greater than the former. Being afraid of failure isn't bad. It's bad when you let this fear divert you from trying harder or trying again.

The truth is no great success was ever achieved without failure. It could’ve been one epic failure or a series of failures. It doesn't matter if you fail a thousand times. For confident people this failure encourages them to do better, it's not a roadblock or a dead end. It's an opportunity to learn new things, learn from their mistakes, and try harder to achieve their goals. At the end of it all, it's not the strongest species that survive, it's the most adaptable.

Today, think about the things you've failed in, did you try again? Did you try harder? Or did you just give up?

4) THEY CELEBRATE THE SUCCESS OF OTHERS

Yes! Confident people love to compete, but the difference between themselves and others is that they love to compete with themselves and not other people.

Why would you want to measure up against someone else's yardstick?

When you know your worth and have a love for yourself it's easy to clap for others. They find it easy to celebrate the success and achievements of others because they aren't putting themselves against them.

Instead, they are learning from them and building relationships with successful people like themselves. This enables them to surround themselves with successful people who will in turn clap for them when it's their turn.

5) THEY HAVE THEIR GOALS AND ASPIRATIONS IN MIND AT ALL TIMES

Have you met a confident person without any direction? With no plans? With no aspirations? Or goals? 

Confident people know that in order to be successful they need to know how to make goals and plans that they actually pursue, they need to prioritize things in their life that help them accomplish their goals and dreams. 

There's a large difference between those who don't have any goals, those who have goals written down, and those who have written goals they actually work towards achieving.

When you are focusing on your goals and plans you are not as easily distracted by unimportant things.

6) THEY DON'T OBSESS OVER OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS

You can't put confidence and people-pleasing in the same room. They just don't mix and they never will. Confident people understand this so they don't rely on other people's praise to lift them up. 

I can assure you if you rely on their praise, be prepared to let their criticism bring you down. It's just how life is , not everyone would like you and not everyone is supposed to like you. It's the honest truth.

For so many, we are so caught up and concerned with what other people are thinking about us. However, a confident person knows that, yes, other people are talking about him,  but no matter what he says or does he knows that he can't control or change that person’s way of thinking or behaving.  

So start caring a little less about what others think and start caring a lot more about what you think. Follow your instincts, go with your intuition. It won't let you down.

7) THEY ARE ACTIVE LISTENERS

I was a bit skeptical about this at first and then when I got deeper into the research I realized just how true this was.  

Someone who is insecure about themselves tends to speak too much in a conversation. This is a mechanism they've developed in order to share their opinions, views, and stories with everyone. They feel like they need to be heard to be important. They feel they have to do this to prove their worth to you, and to themselves.

On the contrary, a confident person understands that they need to listen more and speak less. They know they don't always have to speak to add value. 

The best part is that they don't just listen, they listen actively by giving you their complete and full attention, instead of waiting until it’s their turn to speak.

8) THEY AVOID NEGATIVE BELIEFS, THOUGHTS, AND ASSUMPTIONS

This isn't about being overly pessimistic or optimistic. Just don't let those negatives get to you. Stick to the positives.

"I'm not qualified for the job". Did you even apply?

"I'm going to get an F in math". How come?

"They want someone with a first-class degree" How do you know?

We've formed this terrible habit of predicting the worst for ourselves before it even happens if it even happens. I usually say "prepare for the worst and expect the best" but preparing for the worst doesn't mean analyzing the worst scenarios in our heads and forgetting the good things to life and what the positive outcomes might be.

Confident people have no room for the negatives, to them, it's wasted space. It's like having a pile of trash in your house. Who keeps a pile of trash at home?

No sane person!!!

So steer clear from all the negative thinking and the bad beliefs and assumptions. Nothing good ever come out of thinking bad. Be like a proton, always positive.

9) THEY ASK FOR HELP OFTEN

This has to be one of the best habits of a confident person. The ability to acknowledge one's strengths and weaknesses. Using this knowledge to his or her advantage. It’s not about being weak or unintelligent.

This enables them to acknowledge the strengths in others and use it to fill the gaps in their own weaknesses. After all, when confident people do a good job, they are happy with it and accept recognition for their hard work but that doesn’t mean they didn’t ask for help along the way.

Confident people realize that success is often a result of a team effort. So if you feel like asking for help when you're in need is a sign of weakness or a blow to your ego it's quite the opposite.

Learning how to ask for help goes a long way for you, so start today to cultivate the habit.

10) THEY SPEAK AND PRESENT WITH CLARITY

For Mr.Confidence words and phrases like ;

"Uhm", "Ehm", "I'm not sure if", "I think" 

are not in his vocabulary. These words and phrases bring you down before you've even started, they show the uncertainty in yourself and what you're doing.

Confident people use words with intentions and certainty, they speak with conviction

conviction  /kənˈvɪkʃ(ə)n/  the quality of showing that one is firmly convinced of what one believes or says.

Learn to have courage when you're speaking or addressing a crowd. That courage emits so much confidence across the audience. With confidence, you've won the battle before the war.

These are not all the habits of Mr. and Mrs. Confidence but these are just a few of the key habits that keep them on track and get them going. I hope you've learned a thing or two from them because I know I definitely have.

Confidence goes a long way in life for us. It pushes us to do our best and make the most of what we want to accomplish. It gives us this certainty of who we are and who we can become.

Don't let petty habits and beliefs bring you down. Have confidence in yourself and in the things you do and don't forget "we only have one life , so why not live your best life"

Feel free to leave your comments on how you could relate to this post. Thanks for reading.