Just Checking In: How Are You Actually Feeling?

Dear (inserts his/her name),

It's been ages since we last interacted. I hope you are doing fine, staying safe, resting, being productive, and whatnot.

Our last encounter was about two months ago and then school decided to take me away.

I'm really sorry that I was gone for so long, I hope you forgive me.

I have a very important question to ask you.

Before I ask, I would love to spill some tea about my time away.

Schooling online in Nigeria is a total disaster (Okay it's not a total disaster don't mind me)🥴. I won't even sugar coat it. We don't have the proper resources in this country to carry out E-learning. Is it Airtel and MTN you want to rely on?

Don't even get me started on the power supply. Once you feel you've arrived PHCN (Power Holding Company Of Nigeria) will show you that you haven't.

At first, I thought, oh yeah it will be as easy as taking an online class because I'm very sure some of us usually take online classes for a skill or two. Little did I know that my University thought otherwise. 

Fast forward to late July and then I was scheduled to have my 2nd Semester Tests and Exams. The day I found out we were going to write tests and exams online I told my Mama that I was having high blood pressure (inserts emoji of a girl hitting her forehead).🤦🏽‍♀️

The week before the test was a bit overwhelming for me. I didn't know where to begin. I had all the notes, videos, and even textbooks but reading never felt so hard before. At this point, I would laugh and tell myself it would be fine. Well, it was. God had me in his sight all the way and for that, I am forever grateful.

Now time for the million-dollar question

"HOW ARE YOU ACTUALLY FEELING ?"

I was prompted to ask you this question because a lot of us don't know the honest answer to this. We think it's just a normal question to ask when we want to be polite and hence most replies are usually

 "fine", "I'm good", "My day went well", "great", but that's not what I'm asking you.

These answers are of the mind and not of the body. I'm asking you to honestly tell me how you're FEELING. As you read this I want you to think twice before answering yourself. Be honest and intentional with your answer.

Some of us are emotionally disconnected from ourselves. If this is you, there's nothing wrong. Practice makes perfect. Start now to connect with your emotions again.

It's okay to not be okay. It's okay to be a mess or a wreck. Why?

You're not going to be like that forever. Good things are coming, Great things are here.

Besides just knowing how you're feeling, ask the people around you how they are actually feeling. Don't just assume he/she is fine. Wait and get an honest answer.

Doing this goes a long way for some people. It might not look meaningful but it's one of the most important questions you can ask a person.

I would honestly love to know how you're feeling. Even if you don't want to tell me, tell a close friend or ask someone else the question. You might be adding a lot to someone's life that day.

Now that the million-dollar question is awaiting a reply. I've got great news 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾. 

The Alero Says blog would no longer be posting new articles on Wednesday.

What's better than reading one blog post a week? 

TWO BLOG POSTS A WEEK EVERY THIRD WEEK OF THE MONTH!!!!!

I would now be posting on both Wednesdays and Saturdays by 1 PM WAT on every third week of the month. So that means instead of 4 blog posts a month, you get to read 5 blog posts 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

Luckily for us, this week is the third week of September. Anticipate something big this week Saturday.

I would also be adding a new category to the family, but she's going to be a secret. You just have to be patient enough to see what she's all about.

Please don't forget to leave a reply on how you're actually feeling in the comment section below or if you're shy you can send me a message by clicking on the Work with Me tab. I really look forward to your reply and have a blessed day. Don't forget you only have one life, so why not live your best life.

Lots of love,

Alero.